Bonding with your baby

The importance of bonding

If you want your child to grow up to be independent and confident, act now! Having an intimate parent-child relationship from now on can give your baby a sense of security, which in the long run, fosters social confidence and independence in your child.

Why interacting with the baby important?

Through responsive care, you are able to learn about your baby’s needs better. For instance, you will know over time whether your baby wants to be fed or have the diaper changed when he cries. Your baby will in turn be satisfied by your response and knows that you understand his needs. These harmonious interactions between you and your baby set the cornerstone for building up a long-term intimate relationship.

When the intimate relationship is built up, your baby has you as a safe base. Your baby knows that you will be there to protect and console him whenever and wherever you are needed. With the sense of security, your baby feels free to venture out to discover the world. It is this feeling of security and trust that helps your baby to learn and develop into a more independent and competent person.

The harmonious interactions can also be built through constant communication and playing with your baby. For instance, you may talk about things your baby is looking at, including what they are or what the people are doing. Even though your baby may not understand your words, you cannot overlook the importance of spending quality time together. It is enjoyment in the process that matters.

How to talk and play with your baby?

Learning about your baby’s emotions

Babies can be emotional. When your baby is tired, he will get grumpy. As babies have very brief attention span, when you talk to your baby, he may lose interest very soon by turning his head away and appearing to be irritated. At this time, you can stop for a while and let your baby take a rest.

Babies sometimes cry out of loneliness. Show more attention to your baby when he is calm by touching, rocking or talking to him. You can also play soft music to your baby and show your baby interesting things. In doing so, your baby will feel contented and learns that he will get your attention when he is calm. Thus it will reduce your baby’s crying.

Babies can be emotional

Ways to communicate with your baby

Playing with your baby can stimulate his development in various aspects. The best ‘toy’ for your baby is YOU! Try to spend more time to play and interact with your baby and it helps to strengthen the relationship between you.

Parents can practise the communication exercise with your baby either having your baby in your arms or lying down. You may watch the video here to learn about the exercise.

Connecting with your baby ( 1 to 4 Months ) – English

Narrator: Connecting with your baby now, helps building a close relationship between the two of you.

Sub-heading: Stay face-to-face with eye contact

Narrator: Place your baby in such a way that you can look at each other face-to-face and maintain good eye contact at the same level. In this way, both of you can see the other’s response well.

Sub-heading: Observe, then respond

Narrator: Observe your baby’s reactions before you respond to her.

Sub-heading: Imitate your baby’s sounds

Narrator: Try to imitate her cooing. Guess what she wants to say and respond accordingly.

Sub-heading: Talk with lively expressions

Narrator: Lively facial expressions can arouse your baby’s interest.

Sub-heading: Add in toys

Narrator: You may make use of toys to attract your baby’s attention.

Sub-heading: Take a break when your baby loses interest

Narrator: When your baby loses interest in what you say or do, you may try to use the above skills to attract her attention, or just let her take a break.


The above suggested activities not only can promote babies’ visual and hearing development, they can also stimulate their language development and promote parent-child relationship. Start to have harmonious interactions with your baby now for an intimate relationship between you and your baby later in life.