The significance of responsive interactions
Having responsive interactions with your baby enables you to know your baby’s needs better. For instance, with time, you will know whether she wants to be fed or have her diaper changed when your baby cries. Your baby will in turn be satisfied by your appropriate and prompt responses to her needs. These harmonious interactions between you and your baby become established as patterns and form the cornerstone for building a long-term and intimate parent-child relationship.
Your baby will feel secure with building up of the intimate relationship. She will learn that whenever and wherever she is in discomfort, you are there to protect her. She will be free to venture out to discover the world. Having such initiative helps your child grow up into an independent and confident person.
Frequent interactions and play with your baby also help to build up the harmonious relationship. Even though your baby may not understand your words yet, the key is whether both of you enjoy the interaction process.
Decoding your baby’s crying
The main means for newborns to express themselves is through crying. Therefore, you need to understand why your baby cries and what her crying means.
The causes of baby’s crying:
- Indicating physical needs: such as soiling or wetting her diaper, feeling hungry or tired, having discomfort etc.
- Falling ill: If your baby is ill, e.g. having a fever, not wanting to suck or suckle, having a distended stomach or frequent vomits, you have to take her to the doctor immediately.
- Being irritated by external stimuli: Some babies may get irritated when they are exposed to too high or too low room temperature, loud noises or having too many visitors. There will be individual differences in baby’s response to different stimuli.
- Feeling stressed: Babies can sense the emotional changes of their caregivers even before they are one month old. They may get anxious and keep on crying when their caregiver is under tension.
- Feeling lonely: Babies need companies, too.
- Colic: There are no definite reasons for colic. It happens typically in babies from newborn to 3 months old. The babies will frown or cry intensely in the evening without a cause. They may also pass gas, pull up their legs, or wiggle their body. Their crying is inconsolable despite consoling effort is made
Responding to baby’s crying
Try to figure out your baby’s needs according to the above possible underlying causes. Even if you cannot find out why your baby cries right now, you can
- talk to and touch your baby tenderly,
- play soft music to her
- swaddle her in a soft blanket.
Usually, your baby will be calmed down when she hears your voice and sees you approaching with a tender look.
Can holding the baby too much spoil her?
Young infants cry to signal their needs.If the suggested responses to your baby’s crying above do not help you to calm her down, do pick her up to soothe her. Your baby will feel your sensitivity to her needs as well as your love and care. This will enhance a secure relationship between the two of you and will have positive impact on your baby’s emotional development.
More ways to soothe your baby
How to soothe a crying baby – English
Narrator: What do you do when your baby is crying?
Scene: Daddy goes to the crib when baby is crying. He checks and changes the wet nappy, then rock baby gently in his arms.
Narrator: First of all, you need to find out why your baby is crying. A baby may cry to indicate his basic physical needs, for instance, he cries when he is hungry or when feeling uncomfortable with his wet diaper. At other times, your baby may need a sense of security from your cuddles and physical closeness. As baby’s crying has the basic function of signaling needs, don’t worry about spoiling him by comforting and holding him when he needs your soothing. Not until babies are 8 to 9 months old that they would have the ability to whine for your attention. So you won’t be spoiling your baby by holding him. You may check on your baby’s need step-by-step before you pick him up.
Scene: Daddy checks on baby’s neck and back to see if he’s too hot.
Narrator: Try one method at a time in soothing your baby. This enables you to find out what is the effective way to manage your baby’s crying.
Scene: Daddy picks up baby after checking various possibilities.
Narrator: Avoid being too worried and hurried. Doing many things at the same time would only over-stimulate your baby and make him feel even more tense and uncomfortable. If your baby still continues crying intensely after you have tried the above methods he might probably have what we call infant colic. If so, you may carry him upright against your chest and shoulder. Swing or jiggle lightly. Slow down your movements when your baby calms down. If you still haven’t figured out why your baby keeps crying, you can try to give him a pacifier for sucking comfort. If you are breastfeeding your baby, do not give him a pacifier as it will cause nipple confusion in him. Give a pacifier only after he is over one month old. Or you can place your baby on a rocking chair. These are only some suggestions in soothing a crying baby. You can share with your family, relatives and friends on how to console a baby. Whatever methods you try, you should always keep calm and put your baby’s safety at the first place. If you have worries and concerns about your baby’s inconsolable crying take your baby to the maternal and child health centre or consult your family doctor or paediatrician.
* Never shake your baby in the cradle or in your arms severely or throw your baby high up in the air to avoid an accident or causing the Shaken Baby Syndrome.
What is “Shaken Baby Syndrome”?
Shaken Baby Syndrome -Cantonese version only (courtesy of the United Christian Hospital)
This page is only available in Traditional Chinese
Relative to the proportion of head to body in an adult, the head of a baby is proportionally larger and heavier. The neck muscles of a baby are still too weak to support the weight of her head. If a baby is violently shaken, her brain may collide with the interior of the skull, resulting in severe brain damages.
How to talk and play with your baby?
Baby changes from crying to smiling
The 3 responsive interactions
What simple parent-child activities that you can do?
Physical contact ( 0 to 1 Month ) – English
Narrator: Connecting with your baby can be made easy through simple daily activities. For example, you can touch or rock your baby gently. Or move his arms and legs gently such as doing baby exercises when talking to him.
Visual communication ( 0 to 1 Month ) – English
Narrator: Keep eye contact at the right level and at a distance of about 20 to 25 cm with your baby when communicating with him. Playing with your baby in lively facial expressions can attract his attention.
Vocal communication ( 0 to 1 Month ) – English
Narrator: Although your baby cannot talk to you, do talk and sing to him in a high-pitched voice.